Audio version: https://soundcloud.com/critterkin-jena/going-awry
How many of you have direct experience with of the old adage, “The best made plans of mice and men often go awry?”
When it comes to teaching, I think that saying should be changed to read, “The best made plans of educators will almost certainly go awry at some point.”
And I would argue that’s a good thing! Here’s why.
Human beings are storytellers and trial and error learners. We’re hardwired to need excitement and challenges to grow. So when life becomes routine, or the outcomes of our stories predictable, we get antsy and bored, and start looking for new adventures.
When I first met Gloriann two years ago, my latest plan (and I’ve had many in my life) had not only gone awry, but morphed into something I barely recognized.
I’d just completed the 4th book in my children’s book series, CritterKin, and was all set to begin the 5th, when I started getting requests to do video conference calls with classrooms outside the United States.
The next thing I knew, I was planning and hosting an eight-week, global reading, writing, and creativity challenge with 169 schools in 16 countries, and 99% of it was done virtually.
Being a dutiful teacher, I had a three-part plan all laid out for those eight weeks.
- I wanted to help kids fall in love with reading and writing;
- I wanted to use story and creative projects to help kids experience and explore topics like being different, bullying, and perfection; and
- I wanted to use technology to teach some important 21st century skills like empathy, collaboration, and creative problem solving.
But of course the students and teachers blew my plan out of the water. They didn’t just read and write about the themes in my book, they explored them by creating rap songs, games, and videos. They took selfies, wrote slam poems, and taught themselves how to use all kinds of programs and tools so they could meet and learn from each other.
It was one of the most astonishing and eye opening experiences of my life and has redefined how I see myself and my work.
You see, if you’d asked me two years ago what I do for a living I would have said I’m a children’s book author and illustrator.
Now, I say I’m a creative advocate for kids. I still write and illustrate books. I still do author visits and encourage kids to read and write, but now it’s with the goal of empowering them to find and develop their passions and discover what makes them each unique.
In our increasingly complex and conflicted world, in which 65% of the jobs our kids will hold have not yet been invented, I am committed to helping them grow into kind, creative and competent adults who are comfortable with change and understand that even the best made plans are meant to go awry.
If you’d like to know more about my work and join me on my latest adventures, please visit the links below. I’m especially excited about a new podcast I’m launching called CritterKin Kids and would welcome your thoughts and suggestions. You can learn more at http://CritterKinKids.com
Copyright 2017 by Jena Ball. All Rights Reserved.
Launching new fundraisers makes me nervous. I’ve created a project I’m excited to share, but what’s the best way to do that? We’ve all encountered entrepreneurs who can’t seem to stop talking about their ideas, and the thought of going to one more small business networking breakfast makes me cringe.
Fortunately, I have an alternative this time. CritterKin has been in existence for almost eight years now. Therefore, as I launch my new Patreon support page, I’ve decided to let those who have experienced CritterKin firsthand do the talking for me. Here’s the link: https://www.patreon.com/NotPerfectHatClub
“I LOVE, LOVE, LOVE the work Jena Ball is doing with kids and Emotional Intelligence / Self Awareness. If you are in the giving spirit, give her a boost. It’s a great way to support art, literature and kids!” – Allen Partridge, Adobe Systems
“CritterKin was really the most enjoyable experience I have ever had in my 17 years as an educator. I wouldn’t change what we did, and I’d do it all over in a heartbeat!” – Erin Preder, head librarian, John R. Tibbott Elementary School, Bolingbrook, Illinois
“I am so very impressed at the changed mindset of our students! Proud Principal!” – Vicki Lofton, Principal, Citrus County, Florida
“This has been one of the most wonderful experiences I have had in education. Jena, YOU are truly AMAZING and a very gifted writer. My students were glued to their spots on the floor every time I read to them, and they cheered like CRAZY when the story came to an end. Thank you!! Thank you!! Thank you!!!!” – Gloriann Heikes, 1st. grade teacher, Minnesota
“Jena Ball is one of those people who you meet rarely in a lifetime. The ones who make a great impact on the way you are as a person. Jena is one of them. Heart of gold, empathetic to the needs of others, a celebrated author and someone whose focus is solely on the child being at the heart of the classroom. I have learnt from her that to make a difference, you have to be the change. She is continuously involved in making education better for everyone. Thank you Jena for showing me that life is all about sharing and caring. That surely is the trick to making the world a better place.” – Sunny Thakral, The British School in Kathmandu, Nepal
“Can’t thank you enough for what you are doing! Thank you, thank you, thank you!” – Christina Luce, Second grade teacher, Nate Perry Elementary School
“The work that you are doing is critically important and almost totally lacking in elementary curriculum. It is sooo important that kids get a solid foundation in emotional intelligence and appreciate their value as individuals. I firmly believe that the work you are doing with these adorable and enchanting books, visits to classrooms, and seminars with teachers is improving lives for entire communities.” – Allen Partridge, Adobe Systems
Copyright 2017 by Jena Ball. All Rights Reserved.
There’s nothing quite like the feeling you get when a kid opens the package containing your book and says, “I love it!” Makes me grin every time. I hope you guys enjoy and will look forward to your thoughts as you work your way through Lance’s story. Hugs!
To get your copy of Lead With Your Heart, the story of a misunderstood pit bull who must overcome prejudice and bullies to find his forever home, visit: https://critterkin.com/ifaw2/lead-with-your-heart-2/
This past week has been singularly stressful and eye opening. First, my kitty jumped from my second floor balcony and disappeared into the apartment complex’s storm drains. Then, hundreds of people went out of their way to help me rescue him. Some were people I know, but most were strangers I met by posting to online forums. Some emailed suggestions and encouragement, others showed up and offered to post flyers, set traps, and baked me cookies. Still others picked up their phones and called just to say they were thinking of me. There was even a gestalt group out in California that held a vigil on the day we executed our rescue plan.
Now, as I sit here with Oscar purring in my lap I am struck again by the power of love. The plight of one small orange cat opened hearts and brought all these people together. Best of all it didn’t feel forced or difficult. People who cared showed up and did what needed to be done. They did it willingly and patiently, even when there were snags; even when the hours dragged on and on, and they probably needed to be other places. On that day, love trumped everything and a small orange cat named Oscar came home.
Many Thanks To:
– Christa and Hayden Reich – Who helped map the storm drain system
– Shelly Smith – Cary’s amazing animal control officer
– April Allen and her team – Animal rescuers extraordinaire
– Paul Jones – Cary public works officer
– Jovan Dance – Cary public works officer
– Carol, Carolyn, Ann Marie, Mark, Susan, Betsy, Kristin, Linda, Kerri and Austin, Josh, Michael, Kristina, Debbie, and Cindy of Crescent Arbors
– Lost and Found Animals Facebook Group
– The Nexdoor Lochmere Lost and Found Group
– Lisa Poet and friends
– Amanda Lamb and WRAL for chronicling the story
– Care First Animal Hospital
– Unleashed Pet Supply Store
– Animal Eyecare Center
– VHS Emergency Vet Center
– Grace Park Animal Hospital
– Jan Hill of Wake County SPCA
I can’t thank you enough, but I can and will continue to sing your praises and support you when I can.
To read a blow by blow account of the adventure from start to finish visit: http://wp.me/p37dkL-1hs
April 13th – LOST
I am devastated. Last night around 8:30 my cat (Oscar) and I were sitting on the second floor balcony together. I went in for a few minutes to use the facilities and when I came out he was gone. The balcony has a high rail and in the two years we’ve lived here he has never jumped onto or over it. I have been up all night wandering the complex (Crescent Arbors) calling his name, but no luck.He is a big cat (18lbs.) so I doubt an owl got him. If any of you see him, please call me. He’s very friendly. Thank you!
April 16th – Still Looking
You have all been very kind and supportive, so I thought I’d just let you know that as of 8:30 am Monday there is no sign of my kitty Oscar. I know you all know what it’s like to lose a creature you love. Oscar has been an extraordinary friend, there through some very difficult times. Oscar’s chip is updated, I’ve called my vet and local vets, and submitted a “lost pet” form to the Wake County Animal Shelter. I will go in later today I will keep walking around shaking his treat container and calling his name.Please continue to be on the lookout for him. I can be reached at: JenaBall@CritterKin.com.
April 17th – Found but NOT Rescued
I FOUND HIM! So glad he is alive, but he is in my apartment complex’s storm drain system. It is a whole series of interconnected tunnels with 250-lb. grates over the openings. The apartment management doesn’t want to have the grates removed, so there is really only one opening (very far from where I spotted him) where I can put a trap.
Oscar is clearly terrified, even of me. The grate where I saw him is about 20 feet from my apartment. I can see the opening. from my balcony. It’s SO frustrating to know he’s there but I am unable to reach him.
The fire department and animal control were out here yesterday. Fire department says it’s not allowed to remove the grates over the drains either 🙁
April 18th – Media Coverage
WRAL came out to interview me and the extraordinary people who have so kindly helped me with Oscar. Although he is not yet in my arms, we are much closer to actually getting him home thanks to Shelly Smith of Cary animal control, April Allen (rescuer extraordinaire) and her team, the city workers of Cary, the Cary fire department and police, and the kind residents of Crescent Arbors where I live. It really does take a town to rescue a cat ;-)You can hear Oscar’s story and meet these amazing folks at 12:25 today on WRAL. Thank you to Amanda Lamb of WRAL for taking an interest in my sweet orange kitty. To be continued…
April 19th – The Plan
The quest to find my beloved Oscar continued today. He jumped from my second story balcony last Friday and has spent the past five days in the storm drains at my apartment complex. The storm drains are a complex, connected set of tunnels that run beneath the property. Except for an occasional sighting, it has been impossible to locate him so we could pull him out. Oscar is clearly terrified, disoriented, and unwilling to come out of hiding. Things are complicated by the fact that the drains are covered by 250-lb grates that require the help of the city’s public works folks to move them. Whenever they get close and start lifting the grate, he runs. Traps have also failed because we didn’t understand the drainage system well enough to know where to place them.Thank to Christa Reich, (the exceptionally resourceful woman who works on the maintenance team at my apartment complex) that may have changed today. She and I came up with a plan that just might work:
Step 1 was to map the drainage system. We needed to know how all the tunnels are connected and where Oscar might be hiding. Christa and I believe we finally have a good understanding of the part of the system where Oscar has been hiding.
Step 2 will be to take the grates off of each drain, check to see that Oscar is not in the tunnel that connects it to the next drain, then position someone over the grate to keep him from running back.
Step 3 will be to drive him towards the dead end we found in the system. It is basically a large cement hole with a grate over it that has only one way in and one way out. We suspect he has been spending his time there.
So….we will be carrying out this plan tomorrow morning at 9:00 am with the help of animal control and Cary’s public works people. If you have the time and wouldn’t mind being one of the 10 people stationed at the drains, please call or text me at (919) 454-9917. Please do NOT come if you have not checked with me as I don’t want to disturb the other tenants in the complex. You will need sturdy shoes, a flashlight, and patience.
If you cannot come, please send good thoughts. I can’t tell you how much your support and kind words have meant to me over the past five days. Truly…
P.S. Many of you have sent me private messages offering to help. I don’t have time to go through all of them tonight, so please forgive me for not responding directly. I will need you to text or call (919) 454-9917 to let me know you are coming. THANK YOU!
April 20th – Rescued
What saga! This morning at 9:00 am Shelly Smith from animal control, Paul Jones and Javon Dance from Public Works, April Allen (rescuer extraordinaire) Kerri and her son Austin, and a host of student volunteers brought by Ashley Van Wormer spent the whole morning locating and flushing Oscar out of hiding.
When I say flushing I mean literally flushing. Once we finally located him (a feat in and of itself that would not have been possible without the radical skills of Christa Reich), we had to resort to running water through the tunnels to get him to move into an open drain. Remember that each drain is covered by a 250-lb grate, which meant Paul and Javon had to repeatedly lift and replace them each time Oscar moved. They did this with endless patience and professionalism, for which I am immensely grateful.The first attempt failed because Oscar slipped past the trap and into another tunnel. After a lot of non-repeatable words we regrouped and came up with another plan. We blocked all openings with traps, blankets, and carriers, and positioned volunteers with brooms beside the drains so he couldn’t slip by again. We also tried sending two different Jack Russell terriers down the tunnel to chase him out, but they flat out refused to go when he hissed at them. I don’t blame them!
Finally, we ran a hose down the drain Oscar was in and turned the water on. This time he ran right into the trap and Shelly was able to grab him by the scruff of his neck and put him in a carrier! Relief doesn’t begin to express what I was feeling at that moment. I just stood there with tears running down my face.
To say this was a team effort is an understatement. Many neighbors in the apartment complex (Carol, Kristin, Ann Marie, Betsy, Carolyn, Debbie, Linda, Susan, Josh, Kristina and Michael to name a few) stopped by to check on me, give me food, pass out posters, and ask if they could help. April, Shelly and Christa were my physical rocks. You know you have encountered special people when they will dig up drainage ditches, bait traps with nasty smelling fish, and don’t mind if you text them at 3:00 am to help release a feral cat. To each and every one of you I send my heartfelt thanks. There’s no way I can ever repay you, but I CAN and WILL sing your praises and support you any way I can.Last but not least I have to thank the hundreds people who shared not only Oscar’s story but their own experiences and knowledge as well. They were unfailingly positive and supportive (sending prayers, good thoughts, and kind words) in the face of all that was happening. Thanks to you I was reminded I am not alone and love trumps everything.
As a children’s book author I write stories about how animals can open our hearts and bring people together. I think my next book may have to be about how an orange-striped cat whose journey into an underground maze brought thousands of people together. Thank you all again!
Copyright 2017 by Jena Ball. All Rights Reserved.
Leonard Cohen famously said, “There’s a crack in everything, that’s how the light gets in.” If anyone had told me I’d form a company devoted to chipping away at the small but widening crack in the foundation of education, I would’ve laughed. A journalist by training, I spent the first 30+ years of my career writing features for national publications. If I thought about education at all, it was to marvel that my mother survived 35 years as a teacher.
Then six years ago, my life and the universe conspired to change all that. In rapid succession I was introduced to a six-pound dachshund with paralyzed back legs from abuse suffered in a puppy mill; was asked to write a book for IFAW’s “Cats, Dogs and Us” education program; and began working with the humane educator at my local SPCA. Overnight the importance of making emotional intelligence a cornerstone of education became unavoidably clear. What could I create, I wondered, that would help kids learn and practice kindness?
The answer to that question was the CritterKin book series. By 2013, I’d written three books, and was visiting elementary schools across the U.S. It was during these visits that I began hearing an unsettling meme. Seven, eight and nine-year-old children were telling me their work was ugly, bad and “not perfect.” When I finally asked what “not perfect” meant, the kids replied, “Stupid, messed up, dirty, broken, nasty and loser.” Clearly being “not perfect” was a very bad thing, even though the kids understood no one is perfect.
I spent the next two years writing the fourth CritterKin book – The Not Perfect Hat Club – and developing a global reading and writing initiative to go with it. Since their launch in 2015, the response has been overwhelmingly positive:
“This has been one of the most wonderful experiences I’ve had in education. Jena, you are truly AMAZING. Thank you!!!!” – Gloriann Heikes, 1st. grade teacher, Minnesota
“Thank you Jena for inviting us to this wonderful initiative.” Avnita Bir, R.N. Podar School, Mumbai, India
“I’m so very impressed by the changed mindset of our students thanks to NPHC. Proud principal!” – Vicki Lofton, Principal, Citrus County, Florida
“Amazing! I love it. NPHC is changing the world one perfectly not perfect kiddo at a time!” – Karly Moura, Sun Terrace Elementary School
“You’ve organized this so much more professionally than any curriculum I’ve ever used. I love that it is global too.” – Susie Reilly, 4th grade teacher, California
As of November of 2016, the NPHC initiative has grown to the point where I require partners. It’s time to reach out through LinkedIn’s wide and diverse network to build a team that can help me crack the foundation of education wide open. I’ve already reached out to several companies through LinkedIn, but plan to take advantage of ProFinder to find creative professionals as well. Thanks to LinkedIn, this process promises to be both engaging and educational. Thank you for putting business connections and tools at my fingertips. – Jena Ball
Copyright 2016 by Jena Ball. All Rights Reserved.
The Bully in Us All
A unique conversation was begun between myself (Jena Ball) and Sunny Thakral at the start of October, 2016. As most of you know, October is Bully Prevention month, and I was eager to share both my book, Lead With Your Heart, and my thoughts about bullying after using the book to teach elementary school children kindness. You see, I never intended Lead With Your Heart to be a book about bullying. Yes, there are bullies in the story, but it is fundamentally a book about how judging one another by outward appearances and assumptions can lead to prejudice and fear. In other words, the bullying in the book is a symptom – the result of circumstances and events that have shaped the characters’ lives.
To make a long story short, my conversation with Sunny led to a discussion on #INZpired, the spark chat he co-founded and leads on Friday nights. The conversation that night was intense, engaging and left me hungry for more. It was clear that although more and more schools see bullying as an issue, they are struggling to know how to actually deal with and prevent bullying. And so I did what every good educator on Twitter does when he/she is in search of answers, I consulted my PLN. More precisely, I contacted Craig Kemp, and asked if he would consider making bullying the topic for #WhatisSchool in October.
As soon as Craig agreed and a date was set, I knew what I wanted the focus of the chat to be. Writing and teaching Lead With Your Heart had brought up some painful memories – first of being bullied by the daughter of a family friend, and later of seeing seeing a classmate being bullied but being too frightened to say or do anything. Both experiences bother me still, and taught me that given the right circumstances each and every person has the potential to be unkind. And so I chose “The Bully in Us All” as the topic for our upcoming discussion and the blog posts that follow.
I hope that as you read these diverse contributions below you will consider telling your own story. Share your thoughts, opinions and solutions. Let’s dig deep to discover what bullying has to teach us about who we are and what kind of adults we want our students to become.
If you’d like to add to the discussion, email me at: JenaBall@CritterKin.com or ping me on Twitter @JenaiaMorane
Jena Ball is the beloved author and illustrator of the CritterKin book series and an educator on a mission to ignite creativity and help children discover their unique gifts. To learn more about her work visit:
The Not Perfect Hat Club: http://notperfecthatclub.com
Workshops and Talks: http://JenaBall.com
Allow Students to Own Their Learning
Travis Jordan, Superintendent, Beulah Public School District 27 in Beulah, ND
What happens when you allow students to own their learning? The teacher poses a question to her students and then allows them to use their creativity, critical thinking, collaboration and communication skills to solve the problem.
This is exactly what happened in Mrs. Julie Zahn’s Fourth grade class at Beulah Public School in Beulah, North Dakota. Survey results showed that Beulah ranked above average when it came to students being bullied. The students decided that they wanted to do something about this. They asked their teacher if they could do a video to raise awareness to bullying. Their intention was to inspire other students around the world to do the same.
The students drove the entire process while the teacher let them run with it. Not only did they bring awareness to a great cause – they grew both as a class and individually. When we allow our students to have autonomy in their learning they often take it to unthinkable levels. Let’s not be afraid as educators to allow our students to showcase their talents. Every single child has unique abilities, and with those they have the power to change the world. Thank you Mrs. Zahn for allowing your students to grow and inspire all at the same time.
The video can be found at this link https://youtu.be/RauYok6xMN4.
My name is Travis Jordan. I’m currently the Superintendent at Beulah Public School District 27 in Beulah, ND. I’ve been in education for 13 years now. Six of those years as a Social Studies Instructor in Langdon ND. Three of those as a HS/MS Principal at Griggs County Central School in Cooperstown ND, and Two years at the Superintendent at that same school. This past year I served Shiloh Christian School in Bismarck as their Superintendent. My experiences in life as well as education have created a passion in me to inspire others. I truly believe that each of us has a distinct purpose in life and we all have the ability to change the world. You can find me on the following social media sites.
Jon is the Assistant Principal of a K-5 elementary school where he lives with his wife and two kids. Jon has taught 1st-5th grade, and has been a math coach and has been in administration for 7 years. You can find him on Twitter @ and on Bam Radio at:http://www.bamradionetwork.com/my-bad/
Third Graders in Florida Vlog about Bullying
Terry Stoufer’s third grade class at Lecanto Primary School in Citrus County, Florida is focusing on showing empathy and being Upstanders rather than bystanders in the fight against bullying. Here is what Mrs. Stoufer has to say about her class.
Pedro – Click on the image above
Violet – Click on the Image Above
Maddy – Click on the image above
Brycen – Click on the image above
Sebastian – Click on the image above
“I can see a maturity growing in them. I hear it in their words and see it in their actions. At times, they are still in a “me” world, but they are beginning to look outside themselves. I also see them begin to hold each other accountable. This is not a one lesson fix, or just a week to focus on. It takes time, reflection and many lessons that tie back to their hearts. We have needed to talk about it, share it and have time to grasp and understand it. It is a big…and vital piece in education.” – Terry Stoufer,
The Power of Empathy
Naghma Khan, Clinical/Addiction Counselor, Noida, India
In my tryst with the varied nature of bullying, I have become painfully conscious of the dynamic roles we play in assorted situations. When I started my journey (almost 15 years back) I believed in the conventional model of bullying; which meant a bully, a victim and some bystanders.
But then I met Raj. Raj was one of my warm, delightful adolescent students. He came to me to talk about how distasteful the school culture of cliques is becoming. Raj was articulate and felt passionately for the cause. I was impressed with the authencity and maturity of this teen. We made plans of dealing with this growing epidemic of ostracizing the children who were not able to fit in the definition of a ‘Cool’ kid or the type of kid you want them to be.
My interactions with his program increased and then I saw it. How beautifully the dynamics changed when the cause changed. Raj, one of my pioneers to fight against bullying, very subtly played HIS share of the role of a bully too.
Once identified, I was able to recognize the pattern in various scenarios. Most of the times there was no verbal threats or physical aggression but the trauma/ sufferings was conveyed through different modes. I saw people changing routes and lunch tables because of the mere presence of someone or a group. The roles kept changing and the actors switched places. With the realization came empathy and a new insightful view.
I have a bully hidden inside me. My insecurities feed it. It comes out when it gets a chance or become too big to stay inside; finds its victim, make him suffer; gets contended and hide back in.
My awareness of this powerful fact, help me to work on it. I manage it everyday and spread this awareness to the community I work with too.
Accepting my vulnerability empowers me!
Click HERE or on the image above to watch Kim’s video
Kim Sutton is an energetic educator with experiences educating in early childhood, primary and university. She is excited by exploring new ways in which educational technology can be used to motivate, engage and extend independent learning experiences for all learners. She firmly believes in giving students opportunities that will take their thinking and learning outside the box. Critical and creative thought are encouraged so that students can become not just joyful and engaged learners, but extraordinary people who will have profound impacts on their world.
Find her on Twitter @TeachMissSutton
(Click on the image above to read his blog)
A New Zealand Student Shares His Thoughts
Bullying is one of those issues that won’t go away quickly. It has been around for awhile, and unless we do something it will continue to be a problem. Unfortunately, I don’t see much being done. I guess that bullying gives someone a sense of power or dominance, or a feeling of control over a situation or a person.
From what I’ve encountered in the past, bullies have a background situation that they are struggling with. Often family problems, problems with friends, an overload of schoolwork, etc. contribute to creating bullies. It’s an ineffective and sad way of releasing and trying to take pain away. Bullies will pass their anger and emotions on to someone else to have to deal with. We can’t always shoot down bullies, and label them as bad people, because we don’t always know the full story or what they’re personally going through.
In the end, bullies need to be dealt with in an effective and strategic way that reduces and stops the amount of bullying they do. They must be stopped from doing it in the future. It takes just one conversation with someone to change their life, and every person on this earth has the power to change somebody’s life.
(Click on the image above to see videos of the students talking about bullying and responses from others in the community)
“During our annual SLIME – Students of Long Island Maker Expo http://www.slimemakerexpo.com/ participants participate in Make and Donate activities to help the community. They decorate Welcome Home signs for Habitat for Humanity, decorated Blessing Bags for the Homeless, sewed pillows for puppies at a local animal shelter, created blankets for Project Linus, and wrote thank you letters to members of the armed forces.” – Kristina Holzweiss, School Librarian, Professional Developer, Author and Maker
A Long Island Eighth Grader Shares Her Story
Hello my name is Elizabeth, but you can call me Liz for short. I’m a 13 year old in the 8th grade. I like drawing, writing and reading. I loved school until 6th grade when I had to leave all my friends in Mississippi to come to New York. The first day of school was a life-changing event for me. Here’s my story.
It all started when my dad said he got a new job in New York. I was so happy because I always wanted to visit New York. My happiness came to an end when my dad said, “We’re leaving Friday, so I suggest everyone start packing.” I’ll always remember the way I cried when he told us we were moving. I really didn’t wanna leave my friends.
Skipping ahead to Sunday, when we finally were done unpacking, I remember looking out my window and seeing three nice looking girls from my window. They noticed me and waved. I waved back and they started laughing. I laughed as well because I thought they were trying to be friendly. Little did I know that’s how it all started.
Monday morning came along, and I did the usual – brushed my teeth, got dressed, combed my hair and ate breakfast. I told my mom I had a stomach ache to prevent myself from going to a new school in a new town where I didn’t know anyone but my own family. My mom just laughed and said, “You just have butterflies. You’ll be fine.” She grabbed my book bag, handed it to me and gave me a kiss. I walked out the door to my bus stop and saw the same three girls (I won’t use their names) from the day before. So I thought, “Well today’s the day I make new friends I guess.” I walked towards them and said, “Hi.” They looked at me funny, and one of them said, “Do we know you?” I replied with, “Yes..I, I, I mean no, I just moved here.”
“Where did you move from, a barn? Those clothes are hideous.”
I heard the bus come, and quickly walked away from the laughter and humiliation I’d just received. That was just the morning. Throughout the day, these girls were everywhere I was – in the halls, at lunch and in THE BATHROOM!! THESE GIRLS WERE DRIVING ME MAD.
Over the next few weeks, I was tripped, pushed and even yelled at. These girls did not like me, and I was scared to defend myself. I remember being this really quiet, shy, wallflower type of girl, so I didn’t really make any friends. I’m just not that social. Everyone thought I was weird anyways.
So you’re probably asking yourself, “How did the bullying stop if she was so scared to defend herself?” That’s where my first friend Ashley came in. Here’s how my story ends.
It was the end of the day, and I had just finished working on a science project that took me two days! I was at my locker, and I put the project down so I could open my locker, I grabbed all my stuff and noticed my project was gone. I turned around and there they were holding my project. “What is it?”
“It’s obvi a planet duh.”
“No it’s not, it’s a potato.”
“Maybe it’s a ball. Let’s try it out!!”
That’s when they took my project and started slamming it into the ground. I quickly collapsed on my knees trying not to cry. Laughter filled the hallway. It was so horrible. I was so close to crying until I heard a voice say, “Hey! Leave her alone.” The girls quickly turned their heads.
“Ugh, what do you want?” said one of the girls.
“Leave her alone! She didn’t do anything,” Ashley said, helping me up. “Keep it up and let’s see what the principal has to say about this.”
“Ugh, whatever. Come on girls. She’s not worth our time.” They all practically ran away. I’ll always remember that day when I met Ashley.
So let’s skip to today. Ashley and I are the bestest friends ever. I made more friends whom I care for a lot. And what about the fate of the bully girls? Let’s just say they’ll be home schooled for a long time. But that’s my story. I hoped you enjoyed. – Liz
Putting a Positive Spin on Bullying
Nick Brierley, eLearning Coordinat
Bullying is one of the tragic realities in the classroom of today. Many students and teachers choose to write about the tragic side, but it is equally important to talk about the positivity that we all have to offer.
Two strategies that are effective in bringing about habits of positive thinking in the classroom are bucket filling and identification of character strengths.
Bucket filling is where small buckets (popcorn boxes, plastic buckets or decorated paper envelopes) are pinned to a wall in the classroom, with one for each students (and teacher too!). Students can anonymously drop a compliment or positive words in another person’s bucket. The class can either read them together and talk about some of the great things that they have learned about themselves.
The identification of character strengths is another strategy, where students are encouraged to identify their best character traits (ie. what do you do best?). Students are also encouraged to identify the character strengths that they see in each other. The confirmation that other people see us as valuable people with valuable qualities is an extremely effective strategy in promoting each other as individuals.
Nick Brierley is an educator advocating for student talents, interests and needs inspiring classroom practice. Having ten years experience in primary schools, Nick teaches and co-ordinates eLearning with students and staff at a primary school on Sydney’s north shore. He has completed studies in gifted education, religious education and educational leadership. Nick believes professional learning should be engaging and practical.
Nick is a Google Certified Educator, Google Certified Innovator and member of the Breakout EDU ANZ team working with EdTechTeam ANZ to bring Breakout EDU down under to Australia and New Zealand.
Find Nick on Twitter @mythsysizer
A post by Brandon Marshall on BeBee entitled, “Learn more so you won’t fossilize,” about the importance of being willing to continue to learn throughout your life, got me thinking. While I agree in principal with what Brandon had to say, “…my most valuable asset is my ability to learn,” I think we need to expand and elaborate on the definition of learning. Our ability and willingness to “learn” is often confined to intellectual acquisition of knowledge and skills. We are so enthralled with creating and using the latest widget, app, program or smart phone that we fail to do the more difficult, self-reflective learning that is necessary if we are to use those skills in responsible ways. Since October is “Anti-Bullying Month,” the most obvious example is how digital technology has empowered cyber bullies and can reduce communication between individuals to cryptic exchanges of text. We may have learned to communicate faster, but we certainly have not used that skill to communicate with care and compassion. We must remember that new “things” are only as good as the people who use them. We must examine and find ways to use our new technologies to tackle real world problems. In the case of education, where most of my attention is focused, it should be used to empower children to find and share their stories; to find creative solutions and collaborate with their peers around the world. In this way, the walls of fear, prejudice and judgment can be dismantled and new communication skills, grounded in empathy, kindness and respect for difference can be learned. If we look at history, there are some fundamental and compelling themes humankind has been grappling with forever. They are at the heart of who we aspire to be and a measure of how far we have to go. So to Brandon’s eloquent piece, I’d like to add, by all means keep learning new “things,” but be sure to touch base with your internal compass. Weigh your intellectual knowledge against your moral and emotional center. Does the information or skill you are acquiring help you become a better person? How can it be used to facilitate understanding, make another person’s life easier, clarify an issue or a problem, or connect people whose work or interests complement one another? Finally, does learning this skill or acquiring this information contribute to my personal joy and satisfaction? These are the questions I ask myself before I download an app, purchase a new smart phone, or sign up to learn the latest and greatest SM marketing tool. You see I’m on a mission to address some of the pressing issues we’re facing by using “learning” to recall myself and others to their “best” selves. Which of course doesn’t mean I don’t enjoy a good game of Angry Birds or Pokemon GO every once in awhile 😉 – Jena Ball Copyright 2016 by Jena Ball. All Rights Reserved.
I’ve been thinking a lot about difficulty. More accurately, I’ve been experiencing and feeling my way through a series of difficulties that my rat race mind is ill-equipped to handle. While this is nothing new (I’ve known for a long time that the mind’s ability to come up with solutions is useful only in the final stages of a lesson), it is still tempting to let my thoughts run through familiar mazes.
I’ll spare you the details, but when I finally arrive battered, exhausted and without a penny to my name at the same place I began, I finally start to let go. I picture myself as a Kyudo archer practicing “Standing Zen.” The goal is to breathe, be present, acknowledge and release anything that comes up. So many people, so much pain, so much anger, resentment and blame. I breathe, nock an arrow, raise and draw the bow.
In “Standing Zen,” shooting the arrow is not a test of skill, but a way to focus on an inward target – something you are intent on knowing and remembering about yourself. Free from past and future, balanced and focused in the present, you shoot from your heart towards the center of yourself.
With every breath I allow who and what I am to pour into that arrow. I infuse it with gratitude and wonder, satisfaction and delight. I cure the wood of the shaft with love of earth – the songs of cicadas and whales and wolves; the light of fireflies flaunting their passion and the cooing of doves nestling into sleep. I stroke the feathers, smoothing the barbs into place so their flight will be effortless and true. Finally, I let myself feel the arrowhead itself – shaped and sharpened with the ability to kill. An arrow like this must only be shot with clear intent – with all the creative chuzpah your heart can muster while focused on the goal – my goal – of expressing, sharing and being abundantly supported for who and what I am in the world.
I take one last deep breath and settle in, gathering my strength, mustering my courage as I pull the string back close to my cheek. When I exhale, the arrow flies, driven by love. I don’t hold back. – Jena Ball
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Copyright 2016 by Jena Ball. All Rights Reserved.